Immunological response is the ascendant theory, in fact. For other minority groups, living in a community with people like them is linked to lower rates of anxiety and depression. Be stared at by these out of control gay men of us is a world of infinite possibility.
We gay men and women are outside the gender-role system anyway, and therefore it isn't surprising if some of us -of either six-are more 'masculine' and others more 'feminine'. And yes, those are problems. If true, it will be one more clue to our biological uniqueness. The tensions can be very destructive.
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That chance to share an unseen pain and know there were others like me struggling each day still helps me wake up each morning, pull on my boots and go about my day. That is why any reforms we might painfully exact from our rulers would only be fragile and vulnerable; that is why we, along with the women's movement, must fight for something more than reform.
Of necessity, research at the time was focused on demonstrating how unremarkable gay men and lesbians are: indistinguishable on all personality inventories, equally good at all jobs, benign as parents, unthreatening as neighbors, and so on. Because sexism is not just an accident-it is an essential part of our present society, and cannot be changed without the whole society changing with it.